THE REMOVAL OF THE ENERGY BLOCKAGE WILL TOTALLY REMOVE ALL THESE STRATEGIESThe Aloof Strategy. When we remain quiet as a child, then our mothers often ask if there is a problem. The strategy has worked! We have caught the attention, the energy, the love of our mothers. Because of this people remain quiet and show no love at inappropriate times, simply because this strategy worked once. The aloof use this strategy to gain attention. Once we had a client who used to constantly travel around the world in order to remain aloof from his family. It certainly got their attention!! Also the aloof can work in combination with the star. Once we had a client who preferred to eat alone rather than eat with others. The star made wonderful food which caused it to remain alone.
Further than the aloof strategy the Poor Me gains energy by being sad or sick and by moaning and complaining. Many people say that doctors surgeries are places where people compete for the worst things that happened to them. The combination of the Poor me and the Star. They have some investment in always remaining sick, and that is because it gets the attention of all the people around them. As people get sick of their constant moaning the strategy begins to fail to get attention, as all of these strategies eventually fail. Then something stronger is needed in order to gain the attention and the POOR ME becomes an amputee, Alcoholic or a Drug Addict. They are so sad that one feels guilty to be happy in their presence. Needless to say, this childish personality will do anything, hurt or even kill themselves to gain your attention and your Energy! Remember the Strategy Sub-Personality does not care one jot about its host, YOU!! All it cares about is to perform its robotic programmed function of gaining attention and love and energy from everyone around them. The Strategies of the Vampire.
By asking questions or telling jokes. "Daddy, look, I got ten out of ten at school today!" There are many ways to be a star. But ask yourself why they are doing it? If all they want is attention. If they have no selfless inner purpose. Then this is just another selfish strategy, developed when they were a child, to gain your attention. Further, in extremis the star becomes a jealous and vindictive tyrant. They try to destroy all competition. As Gengis Khan said,- "It is not enough that I succeed, everyone else must fail." These stars become surrounded by many poor me's who need help so that the Star can be seen to be "Generous" and people who say "Yes". These people will confirm you as a Star. They are no Competition, No Threat. However if a Bad Star sees someone as competition, then they will try to destroy that person by saying bad things about them. Destroying their reputation and in extremis, killing them. Stars always want to teach and never to learn. They are not good students, not respectful of the teacher or the teachings, always competing and thus never learning or just being. Once the Star has been healed of all its negative energy on the Meditation Meditation Energy Enhancement Course, then it can become a Good Star!! A Good Star encourages all people to become stars. It does not see anyone as competition because it understands that this world to evolve, it needs everyone to become a strong personality, evolved and creative. Every Man and Woman is a STAR!!
This one is always asking questions to get your attention. It is the forerunner of the Violator Strategy because it is so invasive. The Interrogator does not want the answer, all it wants is your attention and your energy.
Further than the interrogator and the star, this person uses powerful hurtful means to get your attention and energy. Verbal abuse, Physical abuse. Rape. A Violator needs the acquiescence of a Poor Me in order to create the energy sucking polarity he craves. A good violator will use this technique to break blockages and generally test out your emotional state One of my favourite Strategy Jokes... Masochist, "Beat me, Beat me!" Sadist, "NO!!!!" When It Happened to Me The day that the irony of it all hit me is a day that I shall never forget. I wanted to cry, but no tears came. An overwhelming urge to write it down is all that I had. It started when I remembered a story that a dear and valued friend told me over a year ago. She, much to her surprise, found herself pregnant and making plans to change her life into that of a single parent. Laughing, she had commented how funny it was because she had said so much about how single mothers were being irresponsible, because once she had considered them to be "scum of the earth", and here she was now. It certainly opened up her eyes. She was now wiser and regretted what she had said. What struck me was the realisation that exactly the same sort of thing had happened to me, although my issue was different. I was confronting domestic violence. I had believed that women who suffered through it, asked for it. I believed they held the power to control or avoid it, but chose not to. And now here I was a victim of it. The only woman I know who had been abused in this way is my mother. I know about it because I lived through it and its aftermath. I could easily identify what it was that my mother said that caused my father to react so violently towards her. Being seven years old at the time it seemed to me that if she just didn't say those things, it wouldn't happen. Simple. I can remember the last two times it happened to me very clearly. I am sure that it had happened at least once or twice before that, but they are now holes in my memory put there by terror, panic and disbelief. The first incident I remember happened for me in slow motion. I saw the madness in his eyes as he leapt out of the bed at me. His face was red and his mouth slightly frothed. His hands were outstretched heading straight for my throat. They made contact with it in the hallway as I had backed up against the wall. Over and over he repeated "I want you dead", as the back of my head hit the door when he shook me. I didn't struggle or panic, I didn't care if he did kill me. I just wanted it over and done with one way or the other. He was very sorry about it afterwards of course. He said that I made him do it, so I should recognise that and learn my lesson. He suffered no guilt, as he said, because he was not in the slightest bit responsible for the incident. Then he pointed out to me that he is one of the nicest most sincere men that I was likely to meet, and I was a bad person for making him act that way. I took this on because it was perfectly consistent with my childhood beliefs. The second time we were arguing in the dining room. I was sick of him making emphatic statements then storming out of the room. So when he tried to leave again, I grabbed his jumper. He turned on me. His eyes went wild and he pounded full strength on my forearm to break my hold. Then he swung at me with his other fist hitting me in the chest. The next blow impacted so hard on my shoulder that I was knocked back six meters into the kitchen. Losing my balance, teetering backwards with him following me, he pushed me. I remember thinking to look out for my head as I was going down near the corner of the bench. I fell amongst the rubbish and recycling stuff very awkwardly and he kicked me in the shin. That was three weeks ago and my bruises are only just starting to fade. He was very sorry about it afterwards of course. He said that I made him do it, so I should recognize that and learn my lesson. He continued to maintain a guilt free existence because I was responsible for the incident. He said that he thought I was mad and should be locked up. Then he pointed out to me again that he is one of the nicest most sincere men that I was likely to meet, and I was an even worse person for making him act that way once more. I continued to take this on because it was still perfectly consistent with my own learned beliefs. So I had struggled through this issue a lot over the last couple of weeks wondering, had I asked for it? I knew that physically I was powerless against him. Could I have stopped it? I have been very confused about it all and I am also aware that compared to many domestic violence situations, my story is nothing. I am however making plans to leave this house and this environment. I want to be by myself for a while. I do know that it is time for me to ditch my childhood ideologies and admit that his actions were not excusable or justifiable. Meanwhile everybody else continues to think that he is one of the most caring men that they have ever met, especially his women friends.
Because they want your love, they will put aside their wants and even their justifiable needs, and try to please you. They will have no personality of their own except that which wants to please. They will be happy or sad depending upon whether you have been pleased.
Its all your fault. There are only two of us here and it can't be me who is wrong. It must be you!!!
Like the interrogator this intellectual strategy gets off on criticising everything to get your energy and attention. Yet the critic even criticises himself.
All of the strategies in the end are tyrants who want, need and even demand your attention. All they want is your attention. They will get your attention in many destructive and self destructive ways
This one is the Big Daddy of them all. The Controlling Archetype of all of the Strategies. All of them lead to self destruction because they are the major part of the Desire-filled, wanting, vampire ego.
The Poor Me and the Violator usually flip from one to the other and back again within one body. If you have one Strategy, then soon you will flip to the other side. We see many Poor Me's. All of them are capable of becoming the violator in a trice.
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