THE INNER CHILD
DEFINITION
The inner child is an active psychological subpersonality that is characterized by some of the following symptoms:
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Infantile emotional repertoire
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Emotional and attention seeking unnecessary dramas
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Intense loyalty to family of birth
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Childlike relationships
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Behavioral disorders
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Learning difficulties
Analogy
If we imagine the mind to be a mansion, then the inner child keeps us locked up in a small wing of the building, preventing our access to more expansive, deeper, and adult experiences.
ACTIVE SUBPERSONALITY
Until healed, the hurt inner child is an active subpersonality that can exert a subconscious influence over the individual's holistic experience and behaviour:
If present in an individual, then this personality disorder needs to be healed and dissolved, otherwise it can sabotage the individual's successful adult development and experience.
HEALING THE INNER CHILD
If, we were were children, we failed to complete a successful imprint on a suitable mother/father figure, then the inner child will subconsciously motivate us to attempt to complete this failed stage of development.
We might find ourselves subconsciously imitating substitute mother/father figures.
This can lead to possible dangerous situations in our adult life as the inner child complex exerts a subconscious force that pushes into seeking out adult role models. If we are consciously seeking adult role models to complete this stage (consciously healing our lives) then we can control our behaviour. If we are unconscious of this inner motivation then we may end up being inexplicably rejected from social situations and/or being used, manipulated, exploited, and abused.
The inner child may motivate us to put our trust in an unworthy adult role model.
If we think we might have a problem with our inner child complex then we must seek professional assistance to heal it and remove unwanted subconscious motivations that interfere with the development of a holistically healthy adult life.
MISGUIDED LOYALTY
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"I defend the attitudes and opinions of my upbringing, even though some of these values are harmful and damaging to myself and others." - The misguided loyalty of the inner child. |
Our inner child has a very strong and instinctual loyalty towards our parents and the attitudes, values, and opinions that they believed in. This loyalty arises from the realisation that the child is totally dependent upon the adults of it's 'tribe' for its survival, and also the juvenile heart chakra love that a child experiences towards it's parents - "my parents cannot be wrong." It's the same kind of loyalty that a soldier has for it's Nation. It is a blind and robotic response. It prevents real growth and maturity. Most groups, and the family is no exception, expect total collusion (agreement) to the group mind which includes obedience and unquestioned loyalty to the leaders. Subjects - none leaders - are often left with no option but to "take up the party line" - to completely collude with the dynamics and politics of the situation - in fear of alienation, ridicule, chastisement, and other forms of punishment. Within infantile groups, disagreement is experienced as a threat to the supremacy of the leaders, is seen as disobedience to any infantile social order.
This loyalty is an obstacle on the path of healing because we cannot begin to really challenge and sort out our own attitudes, values, and opinions towards life, if the inner child is still actively defending it's loyalty towards the conditioned personality. The child's loyalty can be so strong and unconditional (afterall it is an expression of it's heart chakra love) that we can defend behaviors and opinions that we should really be challenging and dropping. Just as the soldier will unconditionally follow orders that are contrary to real humanistic behavior, so too will the inner child defend it's learned behaviors and family loyalties.
Problems arise when the learned behaviors are contrary to living a happy life, and this is the reason that we need to do something about it. Unchallenged inner child loyalty can severely reduce the quality and type of relationships that we can have with life, it can damage and restrict our repertoire of behavioral responses.
As adults, we will find it very difficult to change - to not act robotically from the conditioned personality - if our inner child is in charge of the show. This is why we need to gradually dissolve the pains, conflicts, and confusions of our inner child, so that we can challenge our conditioned personality and choose our own behavior patterns. When we heal our inner child, then we gain mental and emotional freedoms from the robotic and conditioned personality.
Breaking through this barrier of the loyalty of the inner child can be a painful and upsetting experience because of the disappointment and confusion that the child really feels towards itself and it's family, but it must be done if we are to become true and independent adults with our own minds.
In reality, we are rescuing our inner child, and thus our developing adult, from allegiance's to behaviors and attitudes that can often be harmful to ourselves and others.
If we want our true adult independence, then we need to dissolve the blind loyalty of the inner child. Only then can we begin to really construct our own mental, emotional and physical structures.
We can start this by practicing THE TECHNIQUES OF Energy Enhancement. These techniques will enable us to free ourselves from the dictates of our learned behavior and also to establish a mature and adult relationship with our parents. We can be truly independent of our conditioning. We free ourselves from blind and unchallenged loyalty to our upbringing and it's values. We gain mental and emotional clarity, which helps us to form our own attitudes and opinions concerning the aspect and expressions of the seven chakras - the human mind.
"The sins of the Fathers and NOT PASSED ON to the ninth generation."
WE BREAK OUR CONDITIONING and thus help life.
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